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Self Love - My Journey to Learning to Love Myself

I have been on this journey of learning to love myself for many years now, and so I wanted to share some things with you guys today about what I'm learning. I've had a few people tell me that they are surprised to learn that I struggled with self worth issues, that I appear confident through social media, so I wanted to share with you guys that when I started my social influencer journey (on accident) 10 years ago, it was a HUGE act of courage for me to put myself out there like that. I was terrified and it took many years for me to build the courage and confidence of where I am today. Most of my posts that seemed confident were me pretending confidence, trying to fake it until I made it. I spent most of my life not having confidence, feeling like I wasn't good enough, and not loving myself. The way I learned this was subtle. It wasn't usually someone just outright declaring how awful I was. It was little quips here and there. It was me making a mistake and being shown
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Don't Get Your Pleasure From My Pain

Hey guys! Thank you so much for joining  me  today on my blog! I've got something today that I want to talk about that has just fired  me  up, you guys. And so let's just jump right into it. I'm going to share a screen capture here for you guys.  I received a comment a few days ago on a video I posted. The video is of  me  holding Christian while Christian smiles. During the video, I give him a kiss on the cheek while a song plays in the background. The video text says "When people tell  me  that Christian shouldn't have been born" and then the lyrics to the song says "Let  me  show you what you're missing. Paradise."  So somebody actually had the... I don't even know what the word is... I would say low intelligence, but I don't even think it comes from that, and I don't want to insult people with intellectual disabilities because they know how to be decent humans. But the had the audacity or gall or whatever to comment on that video

A Buchanan Accessible Christmas

 Christian is always hard to buy gifts for. He has been since he passed the easier infant stage where he liked empty water bottles and dog toys. Every year, I spend a lot of time researching products and trying to make sure it's something that he will enjoy for more than 10 minutes. He likes toys that give some sort of feedback and he doesn't like toys where the feedback has to come from him or he has to imagine it. So, action figures and dress up are out, but karaoke machines and microphones are in!  Chandler is so easy to buy for compared to Christian. Chandler makes a list starting in about August and by December it's longer than we will ever be able to cover. He never gets everything on his list, but it's typical eight year old boys stuff, legos, hotwheels, minecraft, roblox and the sort. Meanwhile, Christian often struggles to even think of things he'd like to have. It's not that he doesn't want things, it's partly that the vibrant color or shinines

People Throw Rocks At Things That Shine

Hey guys. Today I want to talk about something that's come up recently in my life, but has sort of been an issue on and off for most of my life and something that most of you have probably dealt with at one point or another. Before I get started, I just wanted to say thank you for being here. Your reading and sharing of my content supports me and gets it into the hands of more people. So thank you!  I want to talk about bullies. I can't say that I got bullied a lot when I was in school.  Of course, there's always going to be some kid who makes some rude comment here in there, or finds a reason to make fun of you, but I can't say that I was subjected to serious bullying as a child. I didn't really experience bullying until adulthood, and it really got bad when  Christian was born. That's when it really laid it on heavy for me.  Of course, a lot of the bullying was because of Christian, but they were targeting me. I was the one that they came after, because Christ

Surgery Again

Hello everyone!  Thanks so very much for hoping on here today and supporting what I do! Every time you read my blog, listen to my podcasts, interact with me on social media, you are supporting what I do and making it possible for me to continue doing this! Speaking of social media, I wanted to remind you guys that we are not only on Facebook, but also Instagram, Youtube, and Patreon! Search my name on any of those platforms and you will find me!  I wanted to let you all know today that Christian will be undergoing a small procedure this coming Friday. He is getting his 6th or 7th set of eartubes. His last two sets of the long lasting T tubes have only lasted him about a year. He seems to consistently get a bad ear infection, his ear will bleed from being so infected, and then the tube falls out. This seems to be a pattern for him!  You may remember that back in December, the day after Christmas actually, I brought Christian to the ER at the advice of the doctor at the local children

First Week of Fostering

Hello everyone!! If you missed my latest podcast, be sure to check it out at laceybuchanan.com/podcasts . A new one will post next Monday that I am so excited about!  I'm also super excited to write this blogpost tonight about how fostering is going. I shared more details about it this week on my Patreon at patreon.com.laceybuchanan if you'd like to see more there! The last week was absolutely incredible and exhausting. I am so tired yall! lol! On Thursday last week we said "yes" to our very first every placement since we became certified to foster. So on the same week as time change, we doubled the amount of kids in our house! It was pure chaos and so beautiful!  We accepted two girls ages 11 and 13. We had not planned on taking children much older than our own boys, but we felt comfortable with this placement after asking questions and learning about the girls. They were also only going to be here a few days, as they just needed somewhere to stay for a few days bef

Censoring of Christian's Face on Facebook

Hey everyone!!! Thanks for jumping on to read my blog today! If you enjoy my content, I invite you to check out my Patreon, where I post extra, early, and exclusive content just for my Patreon followers! You can find me at https://www.patreon.com/LaceyBuchanan.   I wanted to talk about something that happened last week on my personal social media account, and which has been happening on Christian's facebook page for a while now, because it happened again last week on one of my many birthday posts for Christian. The week of my boys' birthdays, I post tons and tons of photos and make tons of posts about them, because I want to record memories for them to have. My dad took a lot (by standards of the 90s, but not by today's standards) of photos of me and my brother when we were little. We have several photo albums full of photos of our childhood and I love that we do. So, I like to take lots of photos of my boys and post funny things they have said, or just share things that